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Your Inspired Action Reaps Successful Results

A long time ago, in a galaxy far, far away, there lived a salesman. This salesman was interested in making currency he spends on his planet. In order to get currency, he had to sell objects. In order to sell objects, he had to convince others in his community they needed his objects.

In order to convince them, he had to take action. Here’s what he did to get results.

Aspiration

The first thing you need to do is find what you aspire to achieve. The basic question is . . . what do YOU want? In the past years one of my favorite expressions has been, “God intended me to live near the ocean, and here I sit landlocked in OH!”

Over the years I’ve put my needs, desires and wants below everyone else’s. Like most women and mothers, I first considered what my ex-husband wanted, what my children would love to do or what my own parents wanted.

I’ve made progress. In the past several months I’ve discovered that I can have one or two things I’d like to have, while still meeting the needs of my family. This has prompted me to set a goal of moving to Florida in the next year. That’s my aspiration in my personal life. It’s what I want and can achieve without upsetting the apple cart . . . too much.

It is important that you find the thing you want to accomplish. Before you can take action, move forward or achieve a goal, you have to know where you’re going and what you’re aiming at.

Ready, Fire, Aim is a best-selling book by Michael Masterson that essentially warns you against striving for perfection before taking action. However, before movement you must at least have a direction. Even the act of searching for what you desire is movement in the right direction.

 

Commitment

June30HopeOnce you know where you’re going, it’s time to make a commitment to achieve your goal. Commitment takes work. No matter how you slice it, success requires work.

You may love what you’re doing so much that you don’t consider it work. But expending energy on anything is the very definition of work.

Although you may be tempted to purchase the Staples Easy button for your desk, pressing it over and over again will achieve nothing. In order to get where you want to go, you must expend energy in the right direction.

Which brings us to the next step . . .

 

Target

You need a target on which to focus your commitment and energy.  Your target is not your aspiration. These are two different things.

The salesman aspired to sell more objects. From this he developed several targets. He needed to learn better sales skills, define his target audience and develop a strong marketing plan. Each of these are his targets.

Once you define the targets needed to achieve your goal, it’s time to stay FOCUSED.

Focus on the target is one of the common places people fail. It might be that you succumb to Shiny Object Syndrome (SOS). This happens when another target appears and your focus your energy on that. Soon another one pops up, and you’ve left 2 or 3 other targets to chase after something you may perceive as “easy.”

This happens a LOT in marketing. You think you’ll use social media and start a new marketing plan. A week later a new video software shows up on the market and you decide you can incorporate video marketing with social media marketing.

It’s when something new shows up on your radar and you convince yourself you can somehow make it work with what you’re already doing . . . or worse, you go off in a whole new direction.

These things happen in business, with your siblings, with your boss, parents and spouse.

Basically, it’s time you focus your attention on the targets that move you forward toward . . .

 

Improvement

While focusing on and moving toward your target is important, it is important you evaluate the results you’re getting June30Chocolateand change course if needed.

Improving your products, services, marketing plans, personal development, nutritional plan, marriage counselor, or anything else that might be your target is your first order of business once you start getting results from your actions.

In other words, once you’ve identified your target and begun moving toward it, if you aren’t getting the results you thought were reasonable, then it’s time to change the WAY you’re taking action.

Not all action is created equally. If you are distracted by the next shiny object, then the action you’re taking is definitely NOT inspired action.

Determine strategies you can use to stay focused on your target while taking time at defined intervals to evaluate the results you’re getting.

 

Offer

Ask most psychologists and wealthy individuals – the piece of the puzzle that garners you the best results is making an offer to others they can’t refuse.

And in many cases, that offer means serving them in way that HELPS them first.

People respond best when you do something for them first. In other words, you catch more flies with honey than you do with vinegar. And, once you catch the fly, you can convince him of almost anything.

Even when that fly is YOU.

Remember, when you’re taking action toward becoming a better you, it’s easier to do and achieve the results you want, when you use honey to push yourself forward and not vinegar.

For instance, when you want to lose weight you’ll be more successful by framing your goal as a desire to become healthier, look great at the beach, be able to keep up with your children or another positive goal, than you will if you set a number in your head.  You won’t be motivated by a number on a scale, but you will be by a goal to keep up with your children more easily.

 

Normal

Persistence must then become your normal behavior. You achieve your goals through action, but the action must be consistent and persistent toward your goals. This then becomes your normal behavior.

In order for your goals and dreams to become reality, your behavior must change.  If your behavior and action don’t change then you can’t expect to experience different results from the past. You do the same things, you get the same results.

 

ACTION Always Predicts Results

Every action produces an equal reaction. There is a consequence for everything you say and do. Whether talking to your children, eating an extra cupcake, or not taking golf lessons before the company golf outing. Everything you do or say will have a consequence.

The trick is to act in a way that produces the consequences or results you’re looking for. In order to do that you’ll be following a plan much like the one outlined above. You might use different words to achieve successful results, but the ideas will be the same.

Before setting out on your next personal quest, spend some time doing your homework and preparing for success. Find your aspired results, make a commitment, aim at your target, plan for improvement, make an offer that thinks of the other person first and make consistency your norm.

 

Finding Joy in a Stressed Out World

Each of us has a mission field and each of us has a mission in life.

Your mission might be:

  • to be the best parent you can be.
  • to grow the best career you can so you can provide for your family.
  • to be the best friend you can be to the people who support you.
  • to be the best person you can be so you enjoy more of life.

Or any of a number of other goals you have for yourself. Because, realistically, your goals are also your mission. The goal which means the most to you is your mission. These are the things in life that inspire and drive you to do your best each and every day.

Without goals or motivation you’re stuck going around the same mountain day after day after day. Without a goal to drive your actions you become stagnant in your own personal development.

BUT, – and this is one great big BUT – when you’re life is consumed with caring for children, getting back and forth to work and dealing with your ex, how in the world is there room for more?

This might be exactly what you’re thinking. Getting up in the morning every day, just hoping you make it through in one piece, to get to bed again that evening. Why should you try to fit one more thing in your day?

But, without fitting this one thing in your day, every day, you’ll be stuck going around the same mountain again and again.

There can be joy in your life, but it’s up to you to find it. And, one of the best places to find that joy is outside yourself.

Again, you’re probably asking – but I do think outside myself when I care for my children and do my best at work. What else is there?

That “what else” that will feed your soul, drive your actions and provide you with more joy than you could imagine.

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Doing something for someone that’s unexpected brings you unexpected joy and boosts that thing that motivates you to get through your day.

Your mission field, should you choose to accept it, is your own backyard. You don’t have to go anywhere outside your own neighborhood to find people who need an ear to listen, a shoulder to cry on or a helping hand.

Watch for the little places where you can make a big difference in someone else’s life.  Is your neighbor sick and need a meal? Is their little one sick and they need some Tylenol? Is your neighbor’s lawn mower broken? or do they need their driveway shoveled?

Is there a nursing home close by? Residents love visitors and your children will thrive on the positive reinforcement and guidance they get from an older generation.  If you don’t have parents in the city, you may want to ‘adopt’ a senior whose family is also not close by.

These connections bring you a gift you can’t reproduce any other way, and teach your children lessons they can’t learn from books, movies or lectures. It won’t matter how many times you talk about how to be good to others, your children learn how to be who they are by watching you and imitating your behavior.

A couple of weeks ago my youngest son came home from ball practice. He told me that a parent had come to the door of the coach’s office, where the team was meeting. After a brief knock, the man barged in and start yelling at the varsity coach that the junior varsity coach had kicked his son out of practice for mouthing off.

My son asked me why the man even bothered to knock because he didn’t respect the closed door enough to wait for an answer, and wondered why this father thought that yelling at one coach would change the mind of another coach about his son’s disrespectful behavior.

Children watch what we do. When we value our self and take time to grow personally, they notice. You might not think they notice, but they do. They will mimic your behavior as they grow and mature. You want more for your children than you have gotten yourself.

But, to get there, they have to learn to be the best that they can be. They have to be great people to get great results. And they will be great people when they put in the effort to become a great person.

They grow, they mature, they develop and they produce what they see in their parents. You have a chance to not only affect yourself, your own joy and happiness, but the future of your children, by choosing a mission in life to grow and become the best that you can be each and every day.

What you choose to do today, tomorrow and the next day affects your future, your children and the people you touch each day.

Consider looking outside your home for a mission field that will bless you, your children and your neighbor.