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Pushing Past Fear to Success – Part Two

If you haven’t had a chance to review the article from Monday, you should probably take about 3-5 minutes to do that right now. The content in that magazine article is the basis for the strategies being discussed today.

While you may or may not think there is an underlying current of fear in your life, you’ll likely benefit from the strategies outlined here. These fears are often the result of common limiting beliefs you hold about yourself and your abilities.

You might think you aren’t good enough, strong enough, smart enough, pretty enough or have enough money to accomplish the goals you have for yourself.

However, you would be wrong. If you’re reading this then you know how to manipulate and read email, can use a computer, can surf the Internet and can read at least a 7th grade level of content.

There is nothing stopping you from succeeding.

March17LionCIYou can read to get the information you need for your goals. You can find partners who have a different skill set than you to help you reach your goals. You can find investors.

The point is that . . . You CAN.

What’s stopping you? . . . Limiting beliefs about yourself!

How to Eliminate Limiting Beliefs

Here is where the rubber meets the road.

At some point in your life you may have heard some or all of this . . .   BUT, changes in your life won’t happen when you KNOW the information; it happens when you ACT on the information.

Success REQUIRES ACTION.

Let’s start at the beginning. Before you can change what you believe, you have to know what you think.  In order to make changes you MUST take action.

ACTION STEP: Set aside at least 30 minutes to go through the following questions and identify your personal limiting beliefs and fears. Then work out a plan of action from the rest of the article.

Know First, Act Second

You might be tempted to read through these questions without taking out pencil and paper to jot down your ideas and answers – but DON’T do it! The reason you’re getting the same results is because you’re using the same resources.

To change what you do you must change how you think. To change how you think you must first know WHAT you think.

Your limiting beliefs are a large factor of what keeps you from achieving and enjoying your dreams. There are several common limiting beliefs that you may hold and others that are individual to just your situation. Before moving to success, it’s important that you identify what is holding you back and then address it.

An integral part of identifying the beliefs that hold you back, is knowing what you say to yourself. This is also called self-talk. Use the following questions to help guide your thoughts and find the limiting beliefs that are holding you back.

Remember that it is important to write down your answers; don’t just answer them in your head. The act of pen to paper has a neurological response that helps your brain to assess and evaluate your thoughts. You need that part of the process to find the answers you’re looking for.

Let’s start with a bold statement that you make. Once you make this statement, out loud, listen to all the reasons you believe you probably couldn’t achieve it. For instance, if you want to lose 100 pounds – make the statement that you CAN lose 100 pounds. Once you make the statement out loud pay attention to the excuses and reasons you come up with for NOT being able to achieve your goal.

Your statement might be you want to make one million dollars, start a new business, get physically fit or any number of other goals that you might feel are out of reach.

  1. Write down your Big Goal.
  2. Why haven’t you achieved this goal yet? What’s holding you back?
  3. What are some of the quotes or clichés that run through your head about your own abilities? Here are a few to get you started thinking:

Filthy Rich
Acorn doesn’t fall very far from the tree.
Actions speak louder than words.
All thumbs.
All work and no play makes Jack a dull boy.
Always a bridesmaid, never a bride.
Any port in a storm.
Back against the wall.
At the end of my rope.
Better safe than sorry.
Between a rock and a hard place.
Bigger they are, the harder they fall.
I bring home the bacon.
The buck stops here.
By the book.
You can’t have your cake and eat it too.
Champagne taste and a beer budget
Climbing the walls.
Can’t find my way out of a wet paper sack.
Doesn’t stand a chance.
Dog eat dog world.
Don’t look a gift horse in the mouth.
Don’t rock the boat.
Fat as a pig.
Don’t make a Federal case
Like a fish out of water.
Get over yourself.
Give an inch and they’ll take a mile.
Grass is always greener on the other side.
It’s all over but the crying.
Last ditch effort.
Left at the altar.
Licking my wounds.

  1. When I think about going after my big dream these are the things that pop into my mind:
  2. What assumptions am I making about achieving this goal?
  3. Are these true or am I ASSUMING they are true?

It’s time to ask yourself if what you think is true.March17TruthCI

For instance, you may think to yourself that “My boss never listens to my ideas!” when in fact, they just implemented one of your ideas. Instead, you might mean that your boss didn’t listen to your last idea or that you don’t value your own ideas.

Spend some time thinking about the experiences that made you who you are today. Take your time remembering what happened during elementary school, high school, at home in your childhood, with your friends, at college, at work in your early years. Take your time to think through your memories.

Although this may take a little time and require 2 – 30 minute sessions, the results will help you make successful decisions in your life that give you the results you’re looking for.

From your perspective today, did you interpret these experiences correctly? And if you did, how badly were the results? Did you live through them and move on to something better?

Oftentimes the truth is not nearly as bad as we think we remember.

Coping Today

Another way of dealing with your fears, after you’ve identified them, is to make good plans. Start by determining all the possible outcomes of your decision.

While persisting to worry about all the possible bad things that can happen in life is unproductive . . . looking at the realistic potential outcomes of one decision is highly productive.

Think positively about what you can achieve. This is a powerful way of building self-confidence and neutralizing your own self-sabotage.

Look clearly at the worst case scenario and face the consequences of what that could be – – then make a contingency plan.  Having a plan B in place will help you have more confidence to move forward.

When I was in high school I was asked to organize the Homecoming Parade. I had never participated in a project that large much less organized it! But, being a young adult without the added disadvantage of some of the self-limiting beliefs I acquired along the way to adulthood, I tackled the project and won.

I had a plan A, B and C! Fortunately, I only need Plan A that time.

Stay flexible. You will face challenges and there will be obstacles, but when you can adapt to the changing environment you increase your success rate. As you move through the questions above, think about the situations you’ve faced in the past and how they could have been different if you adapted to the changes instead of folding up your tent and moving on.

Remember that today is not yesterday and you have not yet reached tomorrow. Said another way, you are not the person you were yesterday. You have grown and learned from your mistakes. You are a better version of yourself today.

And today, you can make decisions based on your experiences from yesterday.

One of the benefits of learning from our history is that we don’t have to repeat it unless we choose to.

You are the entrepreneur of your own life. You don’t have to start a business – you are starting a whole new way of living by identifying your fears and limiting beliefs and then banishing them.

You were born without fear of failure or you never would have learned to walk! Retrain your bran and live your life to YOUR fullest potential.

 

 

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