Last week I shared the nine things people do that turn off your boss and your kids, from the boss’ perspective. If you’re looking for a promotion then you don’t do those things. I’ve done a lot of them, and learned the hard way how they make a difference in the workplace and at home.
I didn’t play politics when I was first out of college and paid a dear price. By not recognizing what the unit leader needed to feel special I was fired. One ‘friend’ later told me that the unit leader had taken everyone aside in a meeting and told them to find any reason to fire me – including fabricating evidence.
Difficult way to learn a lesson.
It wasn’t her first time to do something like that – and I probably wasn’t the last. It took a couple of years before any boss asking for a meeting didn’t leave me quaking in my shoes.
We all experience challenges and loss. The hope is that we can learn from those mistakes and move forward.
So, what do you DO to make you more promotable at work and at home with the hardest critics you’ll face – your children?
Some of these tips are just the opposite of what you shouldn’t do, and others are strategies you can actively use each day.
ONE: Look at Yourself – Honestly
Take an honest look at your communication skills, productivity at work, work performance, relationships and ethics. Before you can make the necessary changes to be promotable, you have to know where you’re starting from.
TWO: Be Honest with Others
Be honest but be gracious. Don’t be rude, but don’t hold back. If you know something, say it – but say it so you aren’t offending your boss, your friends or your kids.
THREE: Bad News First, Then the Solution
Tell someone what’s wrong first – but also tell them the solution. If it’s your boss they will be grateful you identified the problem but also had the solution. Your children need you to give them the solution in way they understand developmentally and in a way they can use.
FOUR: Leave the Drama on the Stage
NO ONE likes drama. You don’t like anyone treating you to their soap opera and they don’t like it in you. Before speaking, take several deep breaths or walk away to collect your thoughts. When you’re angry or full of frustration, it makes conversation difficult and hard for the other person to stay calm as well.
Your boss is harboring the idea you enjoy your work, and your children like to believe they are loved and cherished. You may not feel it at the time, but it’s important that the people around you believe it.
SIX: Make Notes
When you think of something that should be done, that you want to do, that you want to change or that someone else has done that got them noticed – make notes and determine to integrate it into your performance. Did you see a mom handle a difficult situation well? Take notes. Did someone at work get noticed by the boss? Take notes. It will pay off.
SEVEN: Parties Count
You may not enjoy the office parties, but they are politically important to your future. Don’t make out with anyone, don’t get drunk and don’t do business at the party. It’s time to relax with your co-workers and act like you enjoy everyone’s company.
EIGHT: There is no “I” in TEAM
It’s time to be a team player and hold up your end of the work. You are the leader at home, but you’re still part of the team. If you expect the children to respect you, begin by showing them respect.
NINE: Know Your Job
Whatever you’re expected to do – be sure you know the job, the expectations and the expected results. If you don’t know them, then find out! If needed, find a mentor who can help answer questions and give you advice you trust.
TEN: Go Beyond the Expected
Your boss expects your job to be done right, the first time and every time. Can you learn a new skill, make new connections or develop a new solution to a work related problem? Going beyond the expected will get you noticed. Don’t expect you’ll be rewarded immediately, but your efforts will be noticed.
ELEVEN: Be Professional at all Times
Your boss expects you’ll be professional anytime you’re representing the company. If you’re wearing a company shirt in public but you aren’t on the clock, you must act professionally. Believe me, if you aren’t the information will eventually make it’s way back to your boss.
TWELVE: Steer Clear of Gossip
Gossip is conversation of anyone else, aside from yourself, during which you’re discussing behavior, decisions or something about a person who isn’t in the conversation. This covers a huge number of situations. At some point, we’ve all participated in gossip. However, it’s not appropriate at work, not in relationships you expect to keep, and not if you want God or your children to be proud of you. Gossip is debilitating, demoralizing and demeaning. You don’t like it when others gossip about you – and they feel the same way.
THIRTEEN: Create Your Promotion
A position may not be available, but you may have an idea for a new position in the company. If it improves the functionality and productivity of the company, if it’s in the best interest of the business and if you are the best person for the job, then by all means suggest away!